Bryan and I no longer worry about what's for dinner, we have established a good work flow with the household chores, and our communication is usually constructive. It has taken over seven years for us to get to this peaceful place but regardless of how great we are flowing, there's always one thing that will definitely cause hurt feelings, a backseat driver. Regardless of who is behind the wheel, when a driving technique is critiqued, it feels personal. Why are we so sensitive about driving and why does the way that other people drive affect us so much?
For me, it's not just about the way that Bryan drives, I actually have irrational reactions anytime a driver gets too close to a wall. I have anxious tendencies in life that are heightened when I am a car passenger and poor Bryan gets to experience this often. I can admit that I drive slowly and I break often, so Bryan isn't wrong when he complains about my stop-go flow. I was trained to drive defensively and I am a believer that you can never break too soon. Bryan, on the other hand, allows his car to slow naturally instead of breaking when he sees red lights, and this makes me hit the fake breaks on the passenger side. At this point, Bryan thinks I am overreacting and then small, subtle criticisms on both sides commence. It's a cycle that I know well, because everyone is annoying when they drive, it's just easier to tell your partner how you feel about it.
Driving, eating and sleeping are all things that are irritating when you're not the one performing the task and it's up to the other person to be patient. Patience has never been a strong point for me, do you have any advice? How do you handle the way your partner drives?